A guy or lady who is unmarried is worried about how to get a good wife or husband. Later, he or she gets married and becomes worried about delay in childbirth. Later, the children come, and the worries shift to school fees from the children.
Eventually, the children graduate from higher academic institutions. They even gather so much financial capacity and build their own families. Now, this man or woman is worried about the safety of the children. He or she may start consulting false prophets and fetish priests to wrongly seek protection for the children. So, instead of enjoying his or her retirement age by relaxing, visiting places or tourist centres to glide gracefully into glorious exit, he or she is worried until death paths him or her from worries. Don’t look for human beings to tell you what will happen tomorrow. As a matter of fact, do not worry about tomorrow. Sufficient unto the day is the trouble thereof.
Worry over an issue can cause a health challenge that could affect your marital relationship. For instance, if you as a wife is overwhelmed by worry over an issue, it can lead to loss of sleep and appetite. Now, when you don’t sleep or eat, it can lead to distortions in your system and according to health experts, distortions in your system can affect menstrual circle and eventually, pregnancy? Is this not a problem to a marital relationship?
It is very necessary to seek to avoid worries because of the significant impact it can have on your health and your marital relationship. Worrying over an issue without doing anything about it cannot change the situation. We all have issues to feel concerned about at one point in life or the other. Allowing worries to totally deny you peace and affect your day-to-day functionality is dangerous.
I don’t know the form of worry you are going through presently. Your spouse is taking decisions or actions that are likely to cause problems for your family later. Don’t worry. Are your children living a kind of life that is totally contrary to your own positive lifestyle and Christian belief? Don’t worry. Consult God. Offer counsel based on the word of God and pray over it. You are not alone in this challenge. Is your husband dancing to the enticing music of a strange woman? Giving yourself sleepless nights cannot solve the problem. Just do something wise. Maybe your wife’s mother is trying to dictate what happens in your house. You will definitely feel concerned but do not allow worries over this matter overwhelm you. If it is taking you too long to get pregnant for your husband and pressures are mounting while tongues are wagging, calm down. Don’t allow worries worsen your condition by affecting your health. Has your spouse lost his or her job? Yes. This is a problem. Rather than merely worry over the situation, do something wise over the situation.
Actually, Job 14:1 says that “man that is born of woman is of few days and full of trouble”. However, Jesus Christ brought solution. He said: “I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth, you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world” (John 16:33 NLT).
“Let not your heart be troubled. Believe in God. Believe also in me” (John 14:1).
Don’t spend time brooding and worrying over that challenge. If you do, you allow Satan to deny you peace and joy. When he succeeds in taking away these things, you become less productive and unable to fulfill God’s purpose for your life. You need a sound mind to make the right decisions. Therefore, you need to do away with the worries and fear that occupy that mind.
“God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind” (2nd Timothy 1:7).
The truth is that you should do what you can do as a human being under the guidance of God’s word to tackle any issue that emerges in your marriage but it is the divine power of Christ that lifts burdens from the heart and resolves issues.”
“Come unto me all ye that labour and are heavy laden and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28).
Have you ever seen yourself worrying over a particular issue for a very long time, only to later discover that the issue was not as terrible as was being magnified in your mind. Sometimes, the issue was actually never in existence. It was a mere imagination in your heart.
For instance, your spouse is not satisfying you sexually and you assume that he or she is doing it deliberately. You even suspect that he or she may be having an affair with someone else. You worry yourself over this, keeping it to yourself. One day, you bring this challenge to his or her attention by voicing it out, only to discover that he or she was actually ignorant about the right sexual moves for satisfying you and had equally been finding it difficult to speak out on the issue.
You suddenly discover that your husband is relating with some strange woman even in your presence. You get worried and suspicious but keep the question to yourself. After several months, you discover that the lady in question was actually a blood relative and there is nothing illicit in the relationship.
Persuasive communication can save you from unnecessary worries in your marital relationship. Faith in the power of God to change bad situations and solve any problems can save you. A life of prayers is vital in marriage. The prayerful life of a wife can overcome some temptations faced by a husband. The prayerful life of a husband can save his family from the enemy’s troubles.
I don’t know what is getting you worried in your marital relationship. Today, you must understand that God is aware of the situation and that you have the capacity to overcome that temptation “(1st Corinthians 10:13). May God Almighty remove every source of worry in your marriage in Jesus name.
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Pastor Albinus Chiedu