According to Cambridge Advanced Learners’ Dictionary, the word, “Maltreat” means “to treat someone cruelly or violently.” The word “cruel” means “extremely unkind and unpleasant and causing pain to people or animals intentionally.”
Because of increase in the level of wickedness in this world, the world has become a place where people love things and use people instead of loving people and using things as expected by God. If you are one of such people, repent.
As a legally and officially married wife, you are supposed to be a wife to your husband and not a knife. You are supposed to be a helper and not a misfortune.
”And the Lord God said: “It is not good that a man should be alone; I will make him a HELPER comparable to him” (Genesis 2:18).
If you are not worried enough to almost blame yourself for the fact that your husband has been going down financially since he married you rather than making progress, you are a suspect. Examine your personal prayer life, work life and relationship. You are in his life to help him. Are you actually helping?
For instance, there is no food in the house because he lost his job or business. Children’s school fees are not paid. Yet, you have money for expensive dresses and parties. Please, stop maltreating your husband.
Since he married you, you have refused to do anything, except to sit down, waste (not spend) his hard-earned money on frivolities and criticize his ‘poor’ financial performance. Did he commit a crime by ignoring the numerous beautiful and responsible single ladies that existed before he married you? Stop maltreating your husband.
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church, and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore, as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything” (Ephesians 5:22-24 KJV).
You are maltreating your husband when you do things without his knowledge as your head. You are building a personal house somewhere for instance, and your husband that you sleep with everyday is not aware. You are in error. You maltreat your husband when he keeps correcting you over a particular act of misconduct and you keep repeating it.
If you make your parents or siblings disrespect your husband, you are not only maltreating him. You are digging a grave for your marital happiness.
If you are a wife that intimidates your husband to the extent that he says yes to your every opinion or suggestion just for peace to reign, you neither have a marriage nor a home. You are living in a dangerous assumption. There are no two captains in one ship. He is your head. Anything that has two heads is a monster. Don’t make your family a monster. Talk to your husband with respect before children and in public.
“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of
spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life” (Proverbs 31:10-12).
“Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land” (Proverbs 31:23). You maltreat your husband when you display mental insecurity. Maybe you are married to a public figure like politician, actor or pastor. For every beautiful lady that comes around your husband for business, your heart is panting. You keep suspecting every female church member that comes around your pastor-husband for prayers. My dear, don’t kill yourself with unnecessary heart aches. You need deliverance from mental insecurity and lack of trust. You are just an embarrassment to your husband. It is true that there are many ‘unfaithful’ men around but I want to presume you married a ‘husband’ and not just a ‘man’. These are two different things.
You maltreat your husband when he has to eat out because he is not sure there will be cooked food to eat when he gets home despite that fact that he released feeding money.
You maltreat your husband when you insist that no relative of his, including his parents should be helped financially or even visit your house. If they did not give birth to him and nurture him, would you have had such a God-fearing husband that has not killed you in your prime?
You are maltreating your husband when you are hardly available for him and the children in the name of attending church programmes and vigils. When you fail to live up to your marital responsibilities, you are God’s enemy especially when you are operating without your husband’s approval. Religious ignorance is a disease.
Because God instructs a man to love his wife, your husband has been doing everything to prove to you that he loves you. The more efforts he puts into this, the less you appreciate his efforts. You are a wicked wife and you need to repent from your sins.
“God judgeth the righteous, and God is angry with the wicked every day” (Psalm 7:11).
If you have a legally married husband, your husband is a blessing. If you do not change the way you look at things. Things may not change the way they look.
Start treating your husband the way you treated him on your wedding day and your marriage shall be a blessing and a testimony in Jesus name.
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