According to Cambridge Advanced Learners’ Dictionary, the word, “Maltreat” means “to treat someone cruelly or violently.” The word “cruel” means “extremely unkind and unpleasant and causing pain to people or animals intentionally.”
Because of increase in the level of wickedness in this world, the world has become a place where people love things and use people instead of loving people and using things as expected by God. If you are one of such people, repent.
“Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honour to the wife as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, THAT YOUR PRAYERS MAY NOT BE HINDERED” (1st Peter 3:7).
This scripture simply means that once you maltreat your officially married wife, you become God’s enemy irrespective of who you are. It is even worse when you physically assault her or emotionally torture her deliberately by avoiding her or her phone calls or SMS messages.
You maltreat your wife and offend God when you deny her access to your body for sexual pleasure. “Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self control” (1st Corinthians 7:3-5).
Maybe you claim to be a Christian or even a clergyman. Your wife is dying of loneliness because you are always not available in the name of working for God. In case you do not know, your marital responsibility is more important to God than your church ministry. Receive deliverance from religious ignorance today and stop maltreating your wife.
You maltreat your wife when you bear malice with her and refuse to forgive what you consider an offence she committed. Yet, you go to church to clap hands, dance and shout and disturb the entire environment in the name of prayers. Sorry. God may not be listening to you. How do I know?
“Therefore, if you are offering your GIFT at the altar, and there, remember, that your brother has something against you, leave your GIFT there in front of the altar. First, go and be reconciled with your brother; then, come and offer your GIFT” (Matthew 5:23-24 NIV).
This gift includes praise, worship and any form of prayer. Besides, if you don’t forgive, it would mean that you have been lying to God; nay, yourself. “Forgive us our sins for we also forgive everyone who sins against us” (Luke 11:14).
Stop maltreating your wife by always making reference again to an offence you claim to have forgiven her. Stop intimidating and maltreating your wife by making reference to an ugly past or ex-lover relationship, that she confidentially or voluntarily confessed to you about. Doing this is an act of wickedness.
Stop maltreating your wife by talking to her like a house help in presence of your children or even strangers. Stop perceiving your wife as just one of many women. Don’t call her WOMAN or treat her just like any woman. There is a big difference between wife and woman. You CAN NEVER get your expectations in marriage as a husband until you start seeing your wife as your ONLY special wife, rather than just one of the existing women. You are God’s enemy when you maltreat your wife.
Remember that this lady was happy with her parents for decades before you appeared suddenly from nowhere and promised her entire family that you would make her happy for the rest of her life. Sir, what are you doing to her today? What even worsens your enmity with God is the fact that you took her to the altar of God and swore that you would make her happy for the rest of her life. Are you not doing the contrary? Please, stop maltreating your wife.
Before you met your wife, she had a dream of furthering her education, which you promised to help her actualize and support her. Now, instead of supporting her, you are even exhibiting mental insecurity and feeling threatened by her attempt to further her education.
You married a very gifted and talented wife. Instead of empowering her to exhibit her gifts and talents for the benefit of the entire society, while projecting even your family name, you have decided to become an obstacle to your own destiny. You are taking advantage of the fact that your wife has the fear of God and must submit to you in compliance with God’s instructions. Please, stop maltreating her (Malachi 2:15).
Stop maltreating your wife by using her to get sexual satisfaction and yet, you do not care whether she gets satisfied too, or even enjoys it. Selfishness.
Stop maltreating your wife by making your parents and siblings to disrespect her. Stop maltreating her by lazying about and doing nothing as vocation, only to use her hard-earned money for drunkenness, falling into street gutters, while bringing shame to your wife and other family members.
You claim there is no money for family upkeep and the children’s school fees have not been paid. Yet, you have money to spend on outsiders, on other women and on adultery. The worse of it all is that she knows your sexual sin partners. Can’t you see that you are under the devil’s captivity? It is time for your deliverance.
If your relationship with your wife is such that she cannot be bold enough to approach you like a friend to discuss marital or family issues, your relationship is not marital. It is a slave-servant relationship. The negative effects of such relationship is in your future. Study Ephesians 5:25-31 and obey God’s word.
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