Marriage is not man’s idea but God’s idea. Therefore, attempting to play in the marital institution without complying with God’s word, which is the operating manual can be likened to attempting to operate a brand new car outside the prescriptions of the manufacturer’s manual. There are bound to be problems.
Failure to comply with God’s instruction in marriage simply implies fighting against God, which is a very miserable suicidal mission.
Using sexual immorality as a means to obtain wedding ceremony and marriage is a sin against God. “Marriage is honourable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4).
“And be not conformed to this world but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable and perfect will of God” (Romans 12:2).
Revelations 21:8 says that
whoremongers “shall have their part in
the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone.”
So, when you indulge in premarital sex, you are contending with God and his word. Besides, premarital sex CAN NEVER guarantee marital success. The best it can sometimes guarantee is a wedding ceremony which is a one-day affair. Marriage is a lifetime journey.
When you fight God with fornication, dangers such as heartbreaks, unwanted pregnancy, diseases and other misfortunes are waiting for you. Above all, eternity in hell fire is not a joke.
When you commit adultery after your wedding, you are fighting against your creator who instructed “Thou shall not commit adultery” (Exodus 20:14, Matthew 5:28).
When you deny your officially married spouse access to your body for sexual pleasure, you are fighting against God’s word.
“Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence; and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her body, but the husband and likewise: also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer, and come together again, that Satan tempt ye not for your incontinency” (1st Corinthians 7:3-5).
When you are officially married but are operating as if you are single, it is against God’s order. For instance, your spouse does not understand your movement and neither knows the projects you are working on, your salary, etc. In fact, many things about you are shrouded in secrecy to your spouse. Error!.
When you show love to outsiders more than the spouse you have at home, you are fighting against God. For instance, they know you in church and in social groups as a very rich generous donor, with a lot of applause. Yet, your wife or husband and children can hardly feed or pay school fees. This is a very ungodly act.
After official wedding, your parents are still dictating what happens in your matrimonial home. This is simply a fight against God’s word.
“For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother
and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:5, Mark 10:7, Ephesians 5:34).
When you treat your wife like one of your numerous furniture or some other property, you are fighting God in marriage.
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the
church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25).
“Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live
with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs
with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers” (1st Peter 3:7).
When as a wife, you insist that your opinion has to overrule your husband’s opinion, you are fighting God in marriage. For instance, as a wife, you cannot start a church ministry without your husband’s approval. You cannot even go to a place where your husband has instructed you not to go. You cannot embark on a business or vocation that your husband does not approve of. If you do, you are fighting against God in your marriage. You need to submit and escape God’s wrath. There are no two captains in one ship. He is your head. Anything that has two heads is a monster. Don’t make your family a monster.
“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do
to the Lord…
Now as the church submits to Christ,
so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything” (Ephesians 5:22–24
When you attempt to pull the children to yourself by trying to make them hate your spouse; when you talk to your spouse with disrespect; when you refuse to play your matrimonial roles; when you keep destiny-related secrets from your spouse such as information about the child you have outside wedlock, you are fighting against God.
When you refuse to forgive an offence by your spouse or insist on retaliation, you are violating God’s law on forgiveness, a vital element in marriage. “Be kind and compassionate to one another,
forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you” (Ephesians 4:32).
You are fighting against God when you insist on divorcing your spouse despite various efforts by concerned people to help save your marriage. “’For I hate divorce!’ says the Lord, the God of Israel” (
There is something that makes you fight against God and his word in marriage. It is SELF and PRIDE. Successful Christian marriage requires selflessness and humility. “Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny
himself, and take up his cross, and follow me” (Matthew 16:24).
“God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble” (1st Peter 5:5). When God (man’s creator) is resisting you (a created man or woman of flesh and blood), I don’t know how you can ever succeed.
Please! Stop fighting against God in your marriage.
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Pastor Albinus Chiedu