Many people have confronted me with the scripture that says “money answereth all things” (Ecclesiastes 10:19). “Once there is money, marriage will work, they say.” I have always asked them: “Why are billionaire couples divorcing?” Nobody has provided me with an answer to this question. Now, does this mean that the Bible has lied? It is not possible.
Money answereth all things only applies to material things and not spiritual things. How do I know? When Jesus said: “you cannot serve GOD and MAMMON” (Matthew 6:24) he was talking about two opposite things. God is a spirit meant to be worshipped (John 4:24). Mammon is also a spirit, not meant to be worshipped but created to be used. So, all money worshippers are doomed.
Money can buy anything in this world that is physical or material such as houses, cars, aircraft and so on. Money can NEVER buy spiritual things lie true love, salvation, sacrifice, anointing, deliverance, healing, fruits of the holy spirit like gentleness (which has to do with integrity and reliability in relationship), kindness, joy, peace, goodness, baptism of the holy spirit, divine connection, spiritual revelation and so on. There are too many things money cannot buy. Do you understand?
This is why, for instance, you can use money to lure someone to attend your church. The person stops attending, the moment you stop offering that bate called money because money cannot buy personal salvation encounter with Christ, neither can it buy true commitment.
You can use money to convince a lady or guy to marry you but you must never rely on money alone to sustain that relationship because it cannot.
The power of money is limited in capacity. It cannot sustain a destiny phenomenon like marital relationship. Why? Marriage is spiritual. Money is very important in marriage but money ALONE cannot sustain it.
There is nothing in this world that can give you perfect satisfaction and joy of eternity except your heart is possessed by Jesus Christ and his love because anything that possesses your heart has possessed your entire life, determining your joy status every time. Is your heart for sale? Yes. But please, don’t sell it to mammon (money). Sell it to God. When you do this, you have satisfaction and contentment in life (Timothy 6:6-11).
If you are unmarried and the only qualification of your potential life partner is that there is plenty of money, may God help you. Character is more of a spiritual thing and can give satisfaction more than money but good character even when it exists, cannot be guaranteed without a genuine encounter with Christ. Christ’s nature can only become real in a human being when the person has a personal encounter with Christ.
Godliness with contentment is great gain (Timothy 6:6) means that your relationship or love for your creator is not a function of what he gives or does not give you. You simply love God and enjoy divine joy for who he is to you. As an unmarried person, whether or not God decides to give you a husband or wife, your joy in him remains intact.
As a married person, your joy is not a function of whether or not your partner is reciprocating your show of love, sacrifice and contribution to success in the marriage. You are just satisfied and joyful, cheerfully doing everything to make the marriage work because you understand that “your maker is your husband” () and that your earthly marriage is part of your divine assignment. Your contentment and joy cannot be explained by carnal people of the other kingdom.
“For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink, but righteousness, peace and JOY in the holy ghost” (Romans 14:17).
“For the LOVE of MONEY is the root of all evil” (1st Timothy 6:10)
There are many people that are not married today and are watching themselves get older because they are waiting for a banker, oil company worker or some billionaire. Meanwhile, someone is already married to a millionaire or billionaire but slaves and destitute are better than this person because, he or she married based on “harmful lusts which drown men in destruction and perdition.”
The love for money has pushed many into truncated destinies sparked by teenage pregnancies, having children outside without the knowledge of their partners, etc. Many have ended up being killed for money rituals because they were lured by money to run after “potential spouses.” Some are currently into prostitution (sleeping with various men or women) because of money. Some married people have embraced adultery. Some have betrayed their wives, husbands, selling them to the enemy.
All these are evils that the love for money causes. For such people, snares (traps), destruction and perdition are ahead even here on earth before the eternal damnation in hell fire because “God is angry with the wicked everyday” (Psalm 7:11).
If you have been married to the wrong person before you were deceived with money, your case is not hopeless. What you need to do is to get married to Jesus. He alone has the capacity to change your situation.
If you are old enough for marriage and you have not found someone to marry because you have all this while, held on to plenty money as condition for accepting marriage proposal, then, you are the cause of your marital delay. You now know better.
God’s spirit satisfies both spiritual, material needs. Satan can only sometimes, meet material and temporal needs, with destructive conditions and end. Most times, Satan uses money. When he tempted Jesus, he even offered Jesus all material (riches) of this world (Matthew 4). Satan’s stock in trade is using money to lure people into destruction and failure, even in marriage.
So, my brother! My sister! Start looking for character in Christ Jesus in your spouse or potential spouse. Money ALONE has no capacity to give you marital success. Only Christ’s nature can do it.
Once there is money, marriage will work, they say. I ask again: “Why do billionaire couples file for divorce? Why can’t money save their marriage?”
Money is very important in marriage but money ALONE cannot guarantee marital success. There is someone reading this piece. Money is not an issue in your marriage but peace is very far from your home as the heavens are far from the earth. You married your spouse without knowing anything about your spouse’s parental background, relatives and religious beliefs.
Suspicion and lack of trust has become part of your marriage because you, your spouse or your in-laws visit various spiritualists, prophets and shrines in search of protection. A lot of money has been wasted on charms and search for protection. Everybody around you is a suspected witch or wizard.
Obviously, money cannot solve this problem. What is the solution? The truth is that this problem will persist until you discover and encounter Jesus Christ and the supremacy of his power over every power of darkness in your life. You have made God so small in your heart.
When you surrender your heart totally to Jesus and he possesses your heart in an awesome experience, the size of God increases in your heart.
“Thus says the LORD: “Heaven is my throne, and the earth is my footstool..” (Isaiah 66:1)
“And the light shineth in darkness; and the darkness comprehended it not” (John 1:5)
When Jesus Christ truly possesses your heart and you receive the baptism of the Holy Spirit, fear is suppressed and conquered in your life.
Brother! Sister! If your life has been a life of fear, know this: “For God has not given us the spirit of fear but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind” (2nd Timothy 1:7).
“Behold, I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy: and nothing shall by any means hurt you” (Luke 10:19)
“I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven; whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed” (Matthew 16:19)
Money has no capacity to give you ultimate peace in marriage. “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid (John 14:27).
Maybe you married a spouse who is always impatient about things. This has caused you great damage in the past. When an idea or inspiration comes, your spouse rushes, or pushes both of you to rush into implementation without proper background checks, meditation and prayers. At the end, the whole thing fails. Money, reputation, respect for your family and even life is lost. In this case, the lack that is negatively affecting your marriage is patience. Money cannot buy it because it is not sold in the market.
Apart from prayers, you or either of the parties in your marriage, who has this impatience disease needs biblical counsel. The person needs education on the principle nature of life and existence, the dynamic nature and godly requirements for success. The person also needs grace impartation and so on. A counselor is needed.
Perhaps you have a spouse that gets easily angered and even assaults you physically at the slightest provocation. Your spouse lacks self control, a fruit of the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). You know money cannot buy this.
Maybe you are married to a spouse that is sleeping around with just any opposite sex and you have been deceiving yourself with the devil’s lie that “men are naturally promiscuous”. After all, he gives me enough money and anything I want.”
My dear, there are millions of husbands that are not promiscuous. What you have is an abnormality. “Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new” (2nd Corinthians 5:17).
Anything that God does not approve is not normal. I am not in any way asking you to make any trouble with your husband that sleeps around. No. That will not change anything. However, there has to first, be a realization that a problem exists before solution can be sought.
Faithfulness is a fruit of the Holy Spirit but if your husband lacks faithfulness to his marital vow, it is not a problem that cannot be solved. There are men who were once worse than your husband. Today, they have repented from their sins. Some are even faithful clergymen.
Pray for your husband. With love, expose him to the word of God at every opportunity and encourage him to befriend godly people. There is nothing God cannot do.
Let every bachelor and spinster do adequate background checks before marriage rather than marry someone just because of money. This will help to reduce the volume of marital crisis in our society.
“He who loves silver will not be satisfied with silver; Nor he who loves abundance, with increase. This also is vanity” (Proverbs 5:10). The author of this scripture saw it all; money and sexual lust, with 1000 women and abundance of money. Solomon is not talking as an academician or novice. He is talking from experience. Every wise person should listen.
The capacity of money ALONE to guarantee marital success is very limited. Only the nature of Jesus Christ can grant this guarantee. “For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ” (1st Corinthians 3:11).
Embrace the nature of Jesus. You can place an order for a copy of the book, MAKING YOUR MARRIAGE WORK by Albinus Chiedu. Your marriage shall be a blessing and a testimony in Jesus name. Amen.
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