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How Your Spouse’s Name Affects Your Marital Relationship

How Your Spouse’s Name Affects Your Marital Relationship

Names are powerful and your name is what identifies you. Because name is a spiritual phenomenon however, your good name can be totally separated from positive character if there is no divine connection.

This explains why on several occasions when we have seen the Police Force parade criminal suspects on national television, you find among them, names like Emmanuel, Elijah, Enoch, Daniel, Peter and even Paul.

In other words, it is possible for a very ungodly person to have a godly name. I am sure you know that there is a Mary somewhere heading a female secret cult on campus. Your name can identify you without defining your character.

So, without divine influence and connection, your godly name is not necessarily who you are. Every individual on earth has a name but none of such names has capacity to positively influence character and life of the owner without Christ. There is only one name that perfectly influences character of the owner. The name is JESUS.

“Therefore God also hath highly exalted him, and given him a name which is above every name: That at the name of Jesus, every knee should bow, of those in heaven and of those on earth and of those under the earth and that every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father” (Philippians 2:9-11).

Jesus is also called Emmanuel, which means ‘God with us’. Every name that Jesus bears reflects his character.

“For to us a child is born. To us, a son is given and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counsellor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace” (Isaiah 9:6).

So, the name that identifies you is not your name. Your actual name is your character.

What is your name in your marital relationship? Maybe you are unmarried and you have promised several people of the opposite sex that you will marry them, knowing fully well that you don’t actually have such intentions. You may have told them lies about your financial status just to convince them to marry you.

As a lady, you might have told that guy that you are a virgin just to encourage him to marry you.

If you have told any of the lies mentioned here, your name is LIAR, irrespective of your status in church or how often you stay in a cathedral. If you are parading yourself as a born again Christian, God sees you as an impostor.

“You are of your father the devil, and the desires of your father you want to do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaks a lie, he speaks from his own resources, for he is a liar and the father of it” (John 8:44).

“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and fornicators, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all LIARSshall have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death” (Revelation 21:8).

You know you have a child outside wedlock. You married someone without first, informing the person. You know you have lost your job but you are still lying to your spouse or spouse-to-be that you are working. Each time you intend to get money from your wife or husband to buy things, you inflate the cost and cheat him or her. Your name is DECEIVER.

If you are cheating your spouse in financial matters while doing a joint business or any transaction, your name is CHEAT. If you are having sex with someone that you are not legally married to, your name is FORNICATOR (for singles) and ADULTERER (for a married person).

“Flee fornication…” (1 Corinthians 6:18).

“Thou shall not commit adultery” (Exodus 20:14).

If you physically, spiritually or emotionally assault your spouse deliberately, your name is WICKED and “…God is angry with the wicked every day” (Psalm 7:11).

If out of sheer arrogance of being the man of the house, you disregard every advice that comes from your wife on critical family decisions and your entire family continue to suffer as a result of that, your name is PRIDE. You cannot enjoy grace for marital success.

“…God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble” (James 4:6).

If your spend a lot of your resources on outsiders, including church people for the purpose of getting applauds while your spouse and children continue to suffer hunger, your name is FOOLISHNESS.

If you spend your money on parties, public show-offs and displays as well as adultery, while your children’s school fees are not being paid and your spouse and children cannot feed, your name is IRRESPONSIBLE.

Your name in marital relationship is not Elijah, Emmanuel, Peter, James, John, Enoch, Michael, Paul, Isaiah, Mary, Elizabeth, Blessing, Magdalene, Esther, Loveth, Glory, Rose, Patience, Jesus, Bishop, etc. Your character is your name.

It is only a genuine encounter with Jesus Christ that can change your name from Liar to Truthful Person, from Deceiver to Straightforward Person, from Cheat to sincere Person, from Fornicator or Adulterer to Morally Sound Person, from Wicked to Mercy/Compassionate, from Pride to Humility, from Foolishness to Wisdom and from Irresponsible to Responsible.

No other name can change your character except the power of Jesus Christ, the name above all names. He alone can make your marriage work.

Surrender your marital relationship to Jesus Christ and your marriage shall be a blessing and a testimony in Jesus name.


Pastor Albinus Chiedu

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