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Please! Don’t Marry A Person, Who Is Not Blessed

Please! Don’t Marry A Person, Who Is Not Blessed

There is a difference between the BLESSING of God and blessings. The BLESSING of God produces blessings. When someone has God’s BLESSING, the BLESSING has the capacity to produce blessings. Someone can however, have blessings without having God’s BLESSING.

When someone lacks God’s BLESSING, whatever he or she has, cannot pass the test of God’s evaluation and approval. When this is the case, there is no capacity to succeed in an institution as complex as marital institution.

Today, many people who are searching for life partners are looking for people that have properties, certificates, connections, physical beauty and all sorts of material wealth. Some even look forward to marrying tribe mates (someone from their tribe) because they feel their comfort and safety can be guaranteed when this happens. In their estimation, it is these qualities that constitute God’s blessing.

Unfortunately, none of these qualifications represent God’s approval and BLESSING. This is why divorce rate among billionaire couples has continued to increase.

The BLESSING of God is spiritual and continues to reproduce blessings, part of which is materials benefits within the standard of God’s approval. This is what Jesus means when he says “seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you” (Matthew 6:33)

“And he said unto them, Take heed, and beware of covetousness: for a man’s life consisteth not in the abundance of the things which he possesseth” (Luke 12:15).

“Life is more than food and the body is more than clothing” (Luke 12:23).

After narrating parable of the rich fool whose thinking was contrary to this scripture, Jesus said: “So is he who lays up treasure for himself and is not rich towards God” (Luke 12:21).

Dear reader, if you are not interested in these scriptures and you are unmarried, you are not ready to marry a blessed man or woman. This is the truth.

There are unsearchable riches in Christ Jesus which represents the BLESSING you should desire in your potential spouse. The only way to access this BLESSING is to enlist in the sonship of God. Do you want to know whether your potential spouse is blessed or not? Check.

“But as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name” (John 1:12)

Spiritual blessing is eternal but material blessings are temporal. If your potential spouse does not have this spiritual blessing of sonship, you marital success cannot be guaranteed.

“For those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of God” (Romans 8:14)

In case you are confused as to determining whether or not your potential spouse is blessed, read Galatians 5:22-23 and confirm whether he or she posses the fruits of the Holy Spirit because by their fruits, you shall know them.

“His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by glory and virtue” (2nd Peter 1:3).

The BLESSING of God has several features attached to the nine fruits of the Holy Spirit listed in Galatians 5. The features include faith, virtue, knowledge, self control, perseverance, brotherly kindness and love (2nd Peter 1:5-7).

So, does the person you plan to marry have faith in the ALMIGHTY God? Faith means belief. When you believe in something, it reflects in the way you respond to the thing. How does he or she respond to the things of God? If the person you intend to marry is not interested in salvation, Bible-related things, Bible study and righteous lifestyle, the person lacks God’s BLESSING.

If the person is the type that puts faith in charms, cultism, fetish practices and worship of other gods, the person is far from God’s BLESSING.

If he or she lacks spirit of sincerity, truth, patience and personal discipline, then the person lacks capacity to be a reliable marriage partner.

If your potential spouse lacks knowledge and fear of God and fear for God’s word, it means there is no wisdom because the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom. If there is no wisdom, then, there is no understanding. How are you going to cope with such a person for the rest of your life?

If your potential spouse lacks self control, then, your potential marriage is already in trouble and your life could be in danger. It means the person can cheat on you with ease. Worse still, the person can injure or even kill you if you offend him or her.

Your potential spouse lacks God’s BLESSING if the person does not have the spirit of perseverance. If the person gives up easily on situations because of challenges, then, the person can give up on you and drop you at any point in the marital journey. When there is an unexpected challenge such as loss of job, delayed childbirth, illness or in-laws’ headache, the person lacks the capacity to remain with you and face it.

Brotherly kindness can only be produced by the BLESSING of God in your spouse, which is Christ Jesus and godly nature.

Above all, if the person you intend to marry does not possess the love of God, you are bargaining for a truncated destiny because you are about to be joined to somebody that lacks God’s BLESSING. Money has no capacity to help you in this matter.

“He that loveth not, knoweth not God; for God is love” (1st John 4:8)

Marry a blessed person and your marriage shall be a blessing and a testimony.

The BLESSING of God is spiritual and reproduces blessings, part of which is material benefits within the standards of God’s approval.

God was addressing Moses and he said: “I will command my BLESSING on you in the sixth yearso that it will produce a crop sufficient for three years” (Leviticus 25:21).

God’s BLESSING is spiritual. Look out for it in a life partner so that you will be happy in marriage.

“Blessed be the God and father of our Lord Jesus Christ who has blessed us with every spiritual BLESSING in the heavenly places in Christ (Ephesians 1:3).

Material blessings are temporal but the BLESSING of God is eternal. The blessing referred to here is beyond singing the song: “Abraham’s blessings are mine.” The only thing that connects one to Abraham’s BLESSING is embracing Jesus Christ and his nature.

“That the BLESSING of Abraham might come upon the Gentiles in Christ Jesus that we might receive the promise of the spirit through faith” (Galatians 3:14).

Jesus Christ even said: “…for without me, you can do nothing” (John 15:5).

If your potential spouse is yet to accept Jesus Christ as Lord and personal saviour, you are about to marry someone that lacks God’s BLESSING. There is no hope of eternal profit for anyone who pursues blessings and neglects the reliable BLESSING.

“For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?” (Mark 8:36).

As a single lady, how can you identify a blessed guy for marriage? “Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful” (Psalm 1:1).

Does the person you are about to marry prefer advice of sinners to Bible-related or ungodly counsel? Does the person prefer to visit shrines, fetish priest and roadside prophets rather than seeking and waiting for ALMIGHTY God’s intervention to situations and looking unto Jesus? Is the person more disposed to advice of friends to have premarital sex with you rather than waiting for bed undefiled? Then, you are about to marry someone that lacks God’s BLESSING.

If your spouse-to-be prefers spending more time with drunks, cultists and church critics than spending time with born again Christians, you are about to marry someone that lacks God’s BLESSING.

How do you know that your potential spouse is blessed? “His delight is in the law of the Lord; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatever he does shall prosper” (Psalm 1:2-3).

If your potential spouse is blessed, the person is a friend to prayer and the word of God. The person is a solution to issues of life, especially issues related to the BLESSING of God. The person is like a tree planted by the rivers of water. This means that the person is consistent and focused and is not tossed to and fro by every wind of doctrine.

Please, do not marry an ungodly person because an ungodly person lacks God’s BLESSING irrespective of the size of material wealth that the person has. “The ungodly is like the chaff which the wind drives away. Therefore, the ungodly shall not stand in judgement. Nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous. For the Lord knows the way of the righteous but the way of the ungodly shall perish” (Psalm 1:4-6).

Do you intend to get married? Don’t marry just anybody. You need a blessed spouse. Who is the person? “A blessed man (or woman) is “the man to whom the Lord does not input iniquity and in whose spirit there is no deceit” (Psalm 32:2).

If as a guy, you desire to marry a virtuous lady that “her children rise up and call her blessed,” study Proverbs chapter 31.

“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil and lack of gain. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.  She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. She opens her mouth with wisdom, And on her tongue is the law of kindness. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:  Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised” (Proverbs 31:10-31). .

I beg you. Marry a blessed spouse and your marriage shall be a blessing and a testimony in Jesus name.


Pastor Albinus Chiedu

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