Many employees of labour do not understand that the marital relationship of their direct supervisors, managers or employers, wield a very significant influence on the attitudes of such superiors. As a result, such employees have continued to struggle with self inflicted emotional imbalance arising from their frequent conflicts with their bosses, despite their level of hard work, commitment and input.
If you are such employee, know that many of such avoidable conflicts with your boss might just be products of your own ignorance or wrong orientation. It is true that there are some employers of labour and bosses who are simply wicked, unbearable and inhuman, but there are situations where an employee’s blindness to the big picture is a challenge.
If your boss is an unmarried young man for instance and you are married, there is a tendency for you to observe exhibition of certain forms of youthful exuberance in his attitude towards you in the line of duty. You don’t have to complain because you were once at his or her level and probably exhibited some of those natural traits. In any case, he pays your salary. You have a wife and children to take care of. He doesn’t.
The fact that your boss is an unmarried lady and you are married, does not change her position as your boss. You have to respect her office even if she decides to be sentimental and humble, not ‘carrying the position on her head.’
The fact that your unmarried female boss frequently holds corporate board meetings with the high and mighty in society does not necessarily mean that she is running after them in search of husband or sleeping with them.
Sometimes, your female boss (married or single) is simply doing her job, asserting her position as the boss just to get the job done. You are busy with your gender discrimination mentality.
Please, grow up because if you do not have the correct perspectives of reasoning, just because your boss is single and you are married, you might just keep having self inflicted conflicts. Remember! Your boss pays your salaries. Besides, this job is important to your life, at least for today.
You have a married employer or boss who seems to be difficult to approach because he or she hardly has a fun moment. Don’t jump into conclusions that this boss is overbearing, difficult or wicked. Who is his or her spouse?
All your harassing experiences with your boss might just be cases of transferred aggression. You don’t expect him or her to come to the office smiling at all you employees, if there has just been an experience of domestic violence involving wife battering or husband battering. If the bulk of the company’s income is being wasted by his or her spouse on drunkenness, partying or adultery, this is enough to give your boss emotional torture, disorganize him or her, or even affect the business negatively.
If your boss’ spouse has just for no reason, failed to pick up his or her kids from school as expected, maybe because of little disagreement, your boss cannot be in the mood to accommodate a little error in your work.
Imagine a scenario where your boss’ spouse has just quarrelled with one of his or her tenants against his or her wish, and after this tenant has been given several quit notices for a perceived misbehaviour. Now, you have come to his office to make a demand for increment in housing allowance, condemning your current landlord before him. What do you think will be on his mind? Just imagine what his reaction or response can be.
Even if you are married just like your employer, your perspectives and level s of reasoning can never be the same. For instance, your spouse is thinking about the staff salary, diesel, company property, government tax expectations, Local Government remittances, electricity bills, company profit and expenses and so on, in addition to personal family responsibilities.
You only have your salary and your family responsibilities to consider. So, you must learn to help your employer or boss manage daily pressures so that he or she can remain alive and well to keep paying your salaries.
Listen! Do not use your present workplace to judge your future. Whatever challenges you face presently is possibly a launch pard into the big package that God has for your future. When you get to the top and look back, you will be glad that you probably had a difficult boss that subjected you to life training like Portifer did to Joseph.
If you do not take pleasure in whatever good work you are doing presently in your office, you are undoing yourself because passion is vital for fulfilment. Share the dream or vision of your employer, boss or company and take the business as your own. If you do not own someone else’ business in your mind as a worker, you may never actually own a business.
“Slaves (workers), obey your earthly masters (employer) with respect and fear and sincerity of heart just as you would obey Christ. Obey them not only to win their favour when their eye is on you. But like slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from your heart, serve wholeheartedly as if you were serving the Lord, not men; because you know that the Lord will reward everyone for whatever good he does, whether he is slave or free” (Ephesians 6:5-8).
“Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will
also reap” (Galatians 6:7). Worse still, you become God’s enemy when you steal from the company where you work.
If you do not find out what interests your employer or boss and do it as it relates to the job, he or she may never do what interests you.
May God Almighty give you grace to overcome every conflict between your marital relationship and your career or vocation in Jesus name. Amen
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