There are many single beautiful ladies who guys take advantage of. Perhaps you are one of those who guys meet and the next thing on their mind when you get talking is sexual pleasure.
The first major step in attempting to solve a problem is to identify the source or cause of the problem. As they say, a problem identified is half solved. Relationship begins from the heart and reasoning patterns. This is a function of mindset and orientation.
“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life” (Proverbs 4:23).
Your action, reaction or perceptions are functions of your mindset.
Are you beautiful? If yes, this is a blessing. You may be a born again Christian but there is a tendency for a young man whose heart is filled with immorality and proceeds of pornographic contents that has filled his heart, to see you and then, his thought moves straight to illicit sexual desires. He could be your church member. That is not important. The issue here is your response to such temptation. Your response is a function of your heart’s contents. When an organisation is full of armed policemen, it is only those who have genuine businesses to do with such organisation that will go near, and even go inside for transactions.
In the same vein, if you load yourself with the word of God and use it as a shield over your life, only guys with genuine intentions will approach you for relationship. Otherwise, there will not be a flow.
You must be conscious of the fact that premarital sex does not guarantee official marriage to someone.
If you do not want guys to always desire sexual pleasure with you at first sight without thinking about marriage, your dressing, body language and verbal utterances must declare who you are at all times. Light and darkness do not ever cooperate. If you wear dresses but expose sensitive parts of your body, you have no right to complain that guys are salivating to have sexual fun with you, even for free.
Whatever possesses your heart has possessed your entire life. If your heart is possessed by Christ and the word of God, it will reflect in the words you utter and in your body language during interactions with the opposite sex. If for instance, you always wear on your waist, clothes that show off the top junction of your ass, don’t complain about sexual harassment or even rape when it happens.
If you deliberately say sexually suggestive words to a guy that you are meeting for the first time, or even offer parts of your body to him to fiddle with, stop deceiving yourself by alleging sexual harassment. Maybe you need to take classes on sexual wiring of males and females.
Now, what should I do as a lady who guys always want to sleep with like a prostitute? First, I should be firm in response to proposals that question my integrity and moral discipline. Secondly, I should be responsible and disciplined in my dressing, utterances and attitudes. This cannot however, be achieved by personal power. I need to allow my heart to be possessed by Christ and godly thoughts. Jesus said “…for without me, you can do nothing” (John 15:5).
Anything that possesses my heart has possessed my entire life. So, when illicit sexual advances come, my heart will push my action to reject it speedily the way a computer rejects unwanted stuff.
Thirdly, I should not be desperate about searching for a man to marry me. Today, many single ladies are desperate about marriage. This is the problem. It is good to desire to marry but as a lady, I must marry MY OWN HUSBAND and not just any man. My own husband-to-be who truly loves God will want and expect both of us to maintain purity in premarital relationship. Any guy who has no proved evidence of true love for God should not be my husband because that would imply insecurity of my personal, physical and spiritual life even after official solemnization of marriage.
If you are having difficulties handling the challenge of “guys want to have sex with me without marriage,” you may also need a counselling session with us and the God of grace will give you victory in Jesus name.
It could equally be that you are on assignment under a demonic spiritual covenant to lure many young men into sex and truncate their destinies for Satan. You need deliverance by the power that lifted Jesus Christ from the grave. Today, make up your mind to disown satanic kingdom so that your creator’s purpose for your life will be fulfilled. Don’t follow Satan to hell fire.
If you are already a married lady and people desire to have illicit sex with you, it is possible that you are behaving like an unmarried person. I am not saying that this is your case. However, whatever case is your situation, both godly counsel and God’s deliverance are available and capable.
Are you a lady living under a male uncle or you have found yourself boxed under a man or some young men who are taking advantage of you sexually? You can find a way to reach us so that you can be freed from sexual bondage. Possible legal actions would be taken against offenders.
The plan of your creator for you as a lady is that you have sex only with YOUR OWN husband after official marriage and marital life. Anything contrary to this is of Satan. You need a counsellor.
“I beseech you therefore brethren by the mercies of God that you present your bodies, a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God” (Romans 12:1-2).
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