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Tribalism, Racial Problems In Marriage

Tribalism, Racial Problems In Marriage

“When a Samaritan woman came to draw water, Jesus said to her “Will you give me a drink?” (John 4:7 NIV)

“The Samaritan woman said to him “You are a Jew and I am a Samaritan woman. How can you ask me for a drink?” For Jews do not associate with Samaritans). Jesus answered her, “If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water” (John 4:9-10 NIV).

This attitude of the Samaritan woman is what has prevented many people from getting married. Even several other blessings have eluded people because of tribalism and racial mentality.

You say: “I will never marry someone from so and so tribe or race.” Meanwhile, the spouse that has been packaged by God as an instrument to change your life’s story for good could just be in that tribe or race. And so, you could embark on series of fasting and prayers and vigils in search of your missing rib or better half, and still end up marrying someone else’s spouse because while praying, your mind was closed to the location of your own husband and wife by tribalism or racism. What a fruitless venture and regrettable experience!

Perhaps you have love or blessing to share with your peers, associates, or even your spouse. Because of this bias towards their tribe or race, you are holding it back. My friend, you are the principality that is hindering your prosperity. Stop accusing any devil.

“Sir, the woman said, “you have nothing to draw with and the well is deep. Where can you get this living water? Are you greater than our father Jacob who gave us the well and drank from it himself, as did also his sons and his flocks and herds? (Verse 11-12).

As a single sister or brother, stop tampering with a destiny decision based on stories and rumours. Stop using tribe or race to assess those you will or will not give assistance when you can. You might just be denying yourself the opportunity to connect to your blessings. Do not foolishly despise opportunities to get connected to your heavenly packaged life partner. Don’t just pray. Watch and pray.

Tribalism and racism are principalities; barriers to breakthrough. Even when Jesus prophesied to her in verse 16 to 18 concerning her marriage, she still did not let go the tribalism and segregation barrier. She said “I can see you are a prophet. Our fathers worshipped on this mountain, but you Jews claim that the place where we must worship is in Jerusalem” (Verse 19).

Today, you hear statements like: “People from so and so tribe or race don’t know God. They are fake Christians. I don’t care whether they are Pastors or Bishops. So, I cannot marry from there. My children cannot marry from there.”

What a display of ignorance! Relationship with God is a personal matter. God is no respecter of tribe or race. Jesus was quick to educate the woman.

Jesus declared: “Believe me, woman, a time is coming when you will worship the Father neither on this mountain nor in Jerusalem. You Samaritans worship what you do not know; we worship what we do know, for SALVATION is from the Jews” (John 4:21 NIV).

Jesus was saying by implication: “Look! Let us concentrate on the focus of Christianity and leave this Jews or Samaritan matter. SALVATION is the real thing. As long as someone has a genuine encounter with Jesus Christ and is genuinely saved, marry the person and forget about tribe or race, if the person meets your character expectations.

“Yet, a time is coming and has now come when the true worshippers will worship the Father in spirit and in truth, for they are the kind of worshippers the Father seeks. God is spirit and his worshippers must worship in spirit and in truth” (Verse 23 to 24).

Tribe or race has nothing to do with true relationship with God, which is God’s priority.

“Jesus answered, ‘Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again’ (Verse 13). The tribe or race your spouse comes from cannot secure your marriage. If you trust in tribe or race, your marriage will fail.

“but whoever drinks the water I give him will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give him will become in him, a spring of water, welling up to eternal life” (verse 14).

Look! Tribalism and racism are terrible principalities. The woman said, “I know that messiah (called Christ) is coming. When he comes, he will explain everything to us” (Verse 25). Tribalists and racists do not even recognize God’s blessings when they see it.

“Then, Jesus declared: “I who speak to you am he” (Verse 26).

There is someone reading this piece, who is living in the same neighbourhood, working in the same office, worshipping in the same church or trading in the same market with a spouse-to-be, that God had packaged for the person. But this barrier of tribalism or racism mentality has rendered the person blind to what the person has been fasting and praying for. The veil that has been preventing you from seeing your spouse is hereby removed in Jesus name! Amen.


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